Whether you are in a new relationship, or in a long established relationship, the ways you kiss your lover convey different messages. When you kiss someone, what message are you sending?
- Gently touching your lover’s face or hair while kissing will make him or her feel loved.
- Putting a hand around the back of someone’s neck to hold him or her tight against you sends a message of lust, saying “I want you.” While this can be a huge turn-on, it could also be felt as too aggressive, especially if there are control battles in the relationship. If this is a brand new relationship, an action this strong could make a shy or fragile person feel frightened or uncomfortable. But in a long-standing relationship, kissing this way can be a welcome invitation.
- One or two quick ‘tasting’ kisses can be a wonderful appetizer, sending the message that you’re just getting warmed up. It’s a great way to tease someone before indulging in a delicious breath-taking kiss.
- A deep french kiss with a lot of thrusting tongues has very clear implications of what’s to come, so to speak. This can be very exciting, as long as both people enjoy that type of kissing. A man needs to be certain the woman is comfortable with it before kissing that way.
- And a quick extra kiss or two when saying ‘goodbye’ can send the message “I can’t get enough of you.” But don’t overdo it–more than five or six of those could say “I’m needy” or “I might turn into a stalker.”
Most people tend to get in the habit of kissing a certain way. Mixing it up a little enriches your relationship, and adds in a little spice!
Do you have any other ways to kiss someone that send a different message?
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Enjoyed reading this, very good stuff, thanks .
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Thats some great basics there, already knew some of that, but you can always learn more. lol
Nice post, look forward to reading more.
Some people say that kissing is more intimate than sex, and in a lot of ways in can be. I wish I had that kind of intimacy.
I think you can tell how intimate your relationship is from the amount of kissing you do.
Oh, I Love this topic. Just as in the song, “It’s in his Kiss,” it’s so true. I’ve always thought you can tell how a person really feels about you by the way they kiss. My husband, of 24 years, kisses me in a kinda never ending way. No one else has ever kissed me the way he does and we still have a never ending kind of romance.
Just from reading the comments above, I can tell there are some new books I need to buy. I love to find intriguing new authors. <3
Good post, kissing is always nice
Lainy
Fantastic post. I love the title, the message, and the information. I feel as if I learned something. Keep up the good work.
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great article! kissing, making out, isn’t given the credit it deserves. We love to make out like we are still teenagers!
Love the stalker comment I almost spit water out of my nose. Nice post on kisses and the various things they say about us and our relationships.
Thanks Maria! Have you run into many of those ‘might turn into a stalker’ types?
There’s also the doorbell kiss where you lick and play with the bottom lip of a partner whose mouth isn’t open yet. For example, after an interruption, or a brush with an unpleasantness. It can be a playful and polite way of asking to be let in, or let back in.
“Doorbell” kiss–I hadn’t heard that before, but I love it! Thanks for your intriguing addition!
The barely there kiss. A brushing of lips so soft, so breath and souls mingles. If there is not time or place for more, this can be the most unforgettable alluring of kisses…
Great topic, Chel.
Christine London
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Oh yes, beautiful! And that’s why you write such wonderful romances…
I’m partial to nibbling/sucking kisses that involve the teeth, gently, on the upper or lower lip. Sends the message “You’re so tasty I could eat you up!”
Oooh that’s nice Beverly! The message and the kiss…
Kissing is so important-more than people realize, I think, especially in a long-term relationship. It’s that little moment of intimacy we have even when our lives may be too busy for anything more. I love that Lynn said about the 10 second kiss-so true! A lingering press of lips is so different from a quick peck-try it and you’ll see!
Loved this post!
Thanks Eden. And you should know–you write some very hot kisses!
Well, there’s the angry, punishing kiss. Not to be used often, but sometimes a writer can really get a point across with an angry kiss. Great post, Chellesie!
Very true! But not one I’d recommend people practice…
Great list! I really like your caution regarding #4. It really is best to get to know someone before you start that kind of kissing. It isn’t a turn on to some people at all. Also had a good laugh about the needy goodbye kiss.
For us long time married folks, I read that we need to share a ten second kiss each day at some point to keep our romantic thoughts flowing. Good advice.
What great advice! A momentary kiss hello or goodbye can be important to keep connected, but a ten second kiss is a whole different level. Definitely more romantic!