• Has the kissing in your relationship gotten stale or boring?

• Now that you are intimate, do the kissing and necking get forgotten? Or rushed on the way to the big act?

• Maybe you’d like to learn some kissing tips, or don’t know how to tongue kiss, or french kiss. Here are some suggestions on how to kiss well.

Isn’t Kissing Just Foreplay?

No. If you take your time with the kissing, you’ll improve the romantic connection between the two of you, and improve the relationship. Look into your lover’s eyes, show how you feel about him or her, and savor the moment. Sometimes you can’t wait and have to grab each other, and that’s fun too. But if you find you’re not spending enough time kissing,

Kissing with Eyes Open or Closed?

That’s a matter of personal preference. I’d recommend kissing with eyes closed for two reasons. First, removing the visual sensations helps you focus on and enjoy the other senses–the touch of the lips, and the scent and taste of your lover. Also, looking at your partner during the kiss can make him or her feel self-conscious. Of course you want to keep eye contact all the way until the moment of lip contact, and it’s really delicious to see your partner’s face right afterwards.

Kiss Hard or soft?

That’s a tricky question. Some people prefer light soft kisses, while others get turned on by the intensity of a hard demanding kiss. I think the best bet is to start slowly. It’s not a race. Even if you’ve been dying to kiss this special someone, a soft sensuous first kiss is a terrific warm-up before you dive in for a deep one. Guys especially have to remember to be gentle with a woman until she gives you an indication that she’d prefer otherwise.

How to Tongue Kiss (French Kiss)

A good rule of etiquette is to test the waters, so to speak. When you first kiss someone, there should be a lot of give and take. If you want to French kiss, first open your mouth slightly–if he or she matches it, trace your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue. If that is welcome, then you may take it further.

Fresh and Clean Kissing

Of course you want to keep your mouth fresh and clean to kiss. Should you skip onions and garlic at dinner? Yes, unless you are both having them. Always keep in mind when you are eating something that’s unpleasant to the person you want to kiss, and be certain to brush or eat mints afterwards. Smokers need to be doubly careful if they want to kiss a non-smoker.

As in other aspects of a relationship, the best way to kiss well is to be mindful of the preferences of your partner. And remember, kissing is more than just a physical thing, there’s emotion to the motion. Check out a previous blog on the Ways to Kiss to see how to send the message you want when you kiss a man or a woman.