Can an Alpha Male be Sensitive?

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When I first began writing the erotic romance Power Play, I knew that Sergio, my hero, was artistic and very sensual. And in the story, he’d discover he was a dominant. But he also is warm and sensitive. I never categorized him in my mind, or in the promo material I wrote when I sold the book, as anything other than a dominant and a “sensual artist.”

Then when it went up on sale on Amazon, I saw readers tagged the story with the term “Alpha Male.” That made me wonder, was he an alpha male? I hadn’t really thought of that. He’s sweet and polite and considerate. Alphas are typically considered rough around the edges–a wounded heart inside, with a tough skin outside that keeps them from having to feel others’ pain. Can a sensitive man still be an alpha?

On the other hand, he is clearly a dominant. That leads to another pertinent question, are all dominants automatically alphas?  Read more…

 

How to Kiss Well

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  • Has the kissing in your relationship gotten stale or boring?

 

  • Now that you are intimate, do the kissing and necking get forgotten? Or rushed on the way to the big act?

 

  • Maybe you’d like to learn some kissing tips, or don’t know how to tongue kiss, or french kiss. Here are some suggestions on how to kiss well.

Isn’t Kissing Just Foreplay?

No. If you take your time with the kissing, you’ll improve the romantic connection between the two of you, and improve the relationship. Look into your lover’s eyes, show how you feel about him or her, and savor the moment. Sometimes you can’t wait and have to grab each other, and that’s fun too. But if you find you’re not spending enough time kissing,

Kissing with Eyes Open or Closed?

That’s a matter of personal preference. I’d recommend kissing with eyes closed for two reasons. First, removing the visual sensations helps you focus on and enjoy the other senses–the touch of the lips, and the scent and taste of your lover. Also, looking at your partner during the kiss can make him or her feel self-conscious. Of course you want to keep eye contact all the way until the moment of lip contact, and it’s really delicious to see your partner’s face right afterwards.

Kiss Hard or soft?

That’s a tricky question. Some people prefer light soft kisses, while others get turned on by the intensity of a hard demanding kiss. I think the best bet is to start slowly. It’s not a race. Even if you’ve been dying to kiss this special someone, a soft sensuous first kiss is a terrific warm-up before you dive in for a deep one. Guys especially have to remember to be gentle with a woman until she gives you an indication that she’d prefer otherwise.

How to Tongue Kiss (French Kiss)

A good rule of etiquette is to test the waters, so to speak. When you first kiss someone, there should be a lot of give and take. If you want to French kiss, first open your mouth slightly–if he or she matches it, trace your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue. If that is welcome, then you may take it further.

Fresh and Clean Kissing

Of course you want to keep your mouth fresh and clean to kiss. Should you skip onions and garlic at dinner? Yes, unless you are both having them. Always keep in mind when you are eating something that’s unpleasant to the person you want to kiss, and be certain to brush or eat mints afterwards. Smokers need to be doubly careful if they want to kiss a non-smoker.

As in other aspects of a relationship, the best way to kiss well is to be mindful of the preferences of your partner. And remember, kissing is more than just a physical thing, there’s emotion to the motion. Check out a previous blog on the Ways to Kiss to see how to send the message you want when you kiss a man or a woman.

Six Sentence Sunday #3

Erotic Romance Novella Power PlayThis is from my hot new novella “Power Play.” The woman of his dreams has just appeared at the most awkward moment:

Sergio released her hand and turned away. Without her warm touch, a cold fear slipped in. This was the moment he’d been waiting for, his chance of a lifetime, and now he had to face her.

What to do? The alternating fear and lust clashing in his body pushed him to the edge of his control. His legs twitched, wanting to flee the room till he could think clearly again.

To find out more about “Power Play” go to my web site www.ChellesieBDancer.com

And check out some other fabulous authors taking part in Six Sentence Sunday.

Power Play Excerpt

In Power Play, a seductive brat tempts a sexy artist to risk his one shot at partnership for a fling with her. But when he takes control, who will come out on top?

Sergio needs to make partner in the ad firm before he turns thirty, and his last chance is getting a huge new account with an underwear magnate. He’s focused all his time and energy on this presentation, until he meets a beautiful woman in the parking garage.

Liz is hugely successful in business, but not so successful in her relationships. She wants a man who finds her attractive for herself, not her money. She encounters an artistic and sexy man who takes control and that triggers a submissive reaction in her.

The attraction heightens, and Liz teases Sergio until he turns dominant. Once he discovers who she is, he plots his payback, controlling her body, her emotions, and her sexual pleasure. After a glorious night of sensational sex, the real control battle begins. Who will end up on top during the day, and during the night?

EXCERPTErotic Romance Novella Power Play

No way he’d fail this time, Sergio thought as he pulled into the parking garage an hour early. After years of honing his competitive edge, he wouldn’t go soft again. He locked his burgundy Civic, flipped the keys into his pocket and slung his suit coat over a shoulder. With his other accounts sacrificed to his coworkers, nothing could distract him from nailing this presentation and finally making partner, just in time.
Heading to the elevator, he saw a profile in the dim light–the silhouette of her flirty dress, her Grecian nose, and her high cheek bones set against the harsh light behind her. Poetic.
She turned and caught him staring. “Did I forget to put on clothes?”
The amusement in her voice stirred him back into motion. As he neared, he saw long strawberry-blond hair and caught his breath. A gorgeous figure and a red-head too? Damn! “Sorry, didn’t mean to stare. I was just captivated by the classic lines of your face… and, uh, dress. It’s just–your silhouette was so lovely against the glare of that bulb.”
She smiled. “You’re an artist.”
He shrugged. “Well, a graphic artist.”
“An artist nonetheless.” Her tone suggested she was accustomed to being correct. “Art is art.”
“I’d like to make art with you.” Damn, he didn’t mean that. Well he meant it, just didn’t mean to say it. Something about her made him to want to strip her nude and pose her in a hundred classic poses. And take her in every one of them.
“Really?” She couldn’t contain her wickedly sexy smile. “Let me guess, you paint nudes?”
Damn, was he that obvious? She watched him in anticipation. Was she flirting with him?
“No, I don’t paint nudes.” A flicker of disappointment in her eyes. “But now that you’ve suggested it, I think it’s a great idea. When are you available?”
An eyebrow raised, then her mouth tightened. “I’m a very busy woman. I’ll have to check my schedule.”
Busy how? A gorgeous woman like that, how many men did she have in her life? Brushing aside that unsettling thought, he forged ahead. He’d never met a woman who intrigued him like this, and he wasn’t gonna let her run away. “We’re all busy. Let me know when you have an opening and I’ll clear my schedule to fit you in.” After he’d said it he noticed the double entendre.
She must have gotten it, because she looked away. “It might be a while till I can find the time.”
So she wanted to play coy. That’s all right, he was determined, he’d persist till she gave in. He approached her, instinctively summoning his most authoritative voice.
“Make the time.”
Her eyes widened for a split second before hardening into slits. “Oh, do you think I do anything that a man tells me to do?”
Her scathing tone was meant to put him in his place. Instead it made him bolder. He stepped closer–too close–and that felt good. “No, of course not.” He moved again. An inch from her breasts. The electrical charge from invading her space zinged through his body. “Just anything I tell you to do.”
Her mouth fell open and her eyes got steamy. It felt as though that electrical charge from his body had surrounded her and drawn her in. She was his.
The elevator doors rumbled open behind her. As she stumbled back, he stepped forward and held them for her. She nodded her thanks, and turned. The soft turquoise fabric draped like silk over her curvy hips as she passed him, and he wanted to slide his hand along those curves. As she tapped the button, he darted a quick glance at her fingers–no ring. This was his lucky day.
She fled to the far corner, almost against the wall. He envisioned himself pressing her against that wall, lifting her skirt and taking her right here in the elevator. His cock was flooded and hard, ready to take control. He shook his head slightly, trying to get blood flow back to his brain. Think. Gotta do something. Appropriate.

Beer or Girly drink with an umbrella? Girly drink with a wild name (especially with Crème de Menthe or Midori)

Vanilla or chocolate? Chocolate. Or Vanilla with Chocolate sauce. Or Vanilla with Strawberries. I’m just not a plain vanilla.

Hugs or Kisses? What about licks? And nibbles?

Boxers, briefs or commando? That’s a hard one. May I see all the options again?

Steak or sushi? Sushi (but I always like a taste of his Teriyaki Beef…)

Jeans or stilettos? Stilettos go with everything. Or nothing at all.

Quiet dinner in front of the fire or hot night on the town? How about dinner on the town, then a hot night in front of the fire?

Tropical beach or mountain cabin? I have a mountain cabin, so a Tropical Beach makes a better fantasy

Elegant fop or rough-edged rogue? Elegant man in public, wild rogue in private

Cop or Fireman? Can’t decide—a fireman sounds hot, but a cop has handcuffs…

Do you check out Abs or Ass? Ass

Rough and ready Cowboy or Corporate big-wig in a sharp suit? A shirtless construction worker with a nice set of tools (Yes, I’m not very good at following the rules!)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Chellesie B. Dancer enjoys writing contemporary, historical, and erotic love stories with a sprinkling of comedy. The women in her books dare to ask for their desires, so they truly will be satisfied ever after. Chellesie lives on top of a hill overlooking the smog of sunny Southern California. Other than writing, she entertains at parties as an M.C., a paleontologist’s assistant, and occasionally a dancing gorilla. She’s the mother of three beautiful boys and an assortment of other critters. Luckily her husband cooks!
Her motto: Be careful what you wish for… you just might get it!

 

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Smutketeers Contest:

What’s the sexist Valentine’s Day treat you’d like to get? Comment her to enter, winner will be selected on January 31st.

Winner will receive a Naughty Nights kit: 4 Red Silky Restraints, a 7″ bar of Godiva Milk Chocolate (in this case, size matters!) and a Do Not Disturb sign, with sexy suggestions on the back!

Six Sentence Sunday #2 – Power Play

This is toward the beginning of my hot new novella “Power Play” when that sexy mystery woman appears at his work just before the biggest presentation of his career:

   Would they keep him waiting? “I don’t know…”Erotic Romance Novella Power Play
“I do, trust me.” She tossed aside her suit jacket, leaving the white lacy top. Wait–the top was sheer and plain–it was the bra showing through that was white and lacy, with red nipples. He sucked in a breath–her bra had the nipple area cut out, and he could plainly see her nipples, hard and ready, struggling to escape through the sheer fabric.

To find out more about “Power Play” go to my web site www.ChellesieBDancer.com

And check out some other fabulous authors taking part in Six Sentence Sunday.

Six Sentence Sunday #1

This is the opening of my hot new novella “Power Play.”

     No way he’d fail this time, Sergio thought as he pulled Erotic Romance Novella Power Playinto the parking garage an hour early. After years of honing his competitive edge, he wouldn’t go soft again. He locked his burgundy Civic, flipped the keys into his pocket and slung his suit coat over a shoulder. With his other accounts sacrificed to his coworkers, nothing could distract him from nailing this presentation and finally making partner, just in time.

Heading to the elevator, he saw a profile in the dim light–the silhouette of her flirty dress, her Grecian nose, and her high cheek bones set against the harsh light behind her–poetic.

She turned and caught him staring.

To find out more about “Power Play” go to my web site www.ChellesieBDancer.com

And check out some other fabulous authors taking part in Six Sentence Sunday.

Write What You Know?

One woman's fantasy is another's reality...

“Have you tried all those things you write about?” they ask with a snicker. Such is the life of the erotica writer. Well I had fun answering that in my biography. But people don’t ask suspense writers that question. An author friend of mine who writes steamy stories answers, “Absolutely, I try everything I write about. When my villain cuts off someone’s hand, I make sure I have experience doing it.” And what about the paranormal and science fiction writers?

But on the other hand (the one still attached), you do have to have some experiences in life, some firsthand knowledge, to be able to write well. If you’ve never had a sexual encounter, you couldn’t write believably about it. Just as you have to have experienced some anger, heartbreak, and disillusionment to write a believable villain, you have to have been in love and felt lust to write about them. The bottom line is that it’s the emotions that have to be real for readers to identify with the characters.

But then there are the details. Personal knowledge is helpful, but there’s always research. Right now, the amount of information available to us all, writers and readers, is astonishing. I’ve written dozens of stories, many steamy, but this is the first one that specifically deals with sensual bondage. Although I’m not in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve learned a bit about it. I’ve felt that marvelous sense of abandon that submissives feel. Anyone can try sensual bondage at home. And I’ve learned a lot from people I know, from non-fiction books I’ve read on the subject, and also from fiction.

Yes, I’ve learned about BDSM, and even about sex in general, from reading erotic romance. Sure, they’re fantasy. No doubt about it. But many stories explore sexuality in a way that allows readers not only to live vicariously, but to get an insight into other techniques and experiences. Writers like Eden Bradley (aka Eve Berlin) bring their real-life experiences from the BDSM world into their fiction. (And don’t you wonder if Angela Knight has had some personal experience with a sexy vampire?)

So instead of write what you know, some say to write what you know or are willing to learn. That’s good advice. I say read a good story and you can learn that way too!

Hot Excerpt from an Erotic Romance

Hey Everyone,

My steamy new story Power Play is now available for download to willing computers and readers everywhere!

Erotic Romance Novella Power Play

A seductive brat tempts a sexy artist to risk his one shot at partnership for a fling with her. But when he takes control, who will come out on top?

Buy “Power Play”

 


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How to Kiss You? Let Me Count the Ways…

Whether you are in a new relationship, or in a long established relationship, the ways you kiss your lover convey different messages. When you kiss someone, what message are you sending?

  • Gently touching your lover’s face or hair while kissing will make him or her feel loved.Passioante Kiss
  • Putting a hand around the back of someone’s neck to hold him or her tight against you sends a message of lust, saying “I want you.” While this can be a huge turn-on, it could also be felt as too aggressive, especially if there are control battles in the relationship. If this is a brand new relationship, an action this strong could make a shy or fragile person feel frightened or uncomfortable. But in a long-standing relationship, kissing this way can be a welcome invitation.
  • One or two quick ‘tasting’ kisses can be a wonderful appetizer, sending the message that you’re just getting warmed up. It’s a great way to tease someone before indulging in a delicious breath-taking kiss.
  • A deep french kiss with a lot of thrusting tongues has very clear implications of what’s to come, so to speak. This can be very exciting, as long as both people enjoy that type of kissing. A man needs to be certain the woman is comfortable with it before kissing that way.
  • And a quick extra kiss or two when saying ‘goodbye’ can send the message “I can’t get enough of you.” But don’t overdo it–more than five or six of those could say “I’m needy” or “I might turn into a stalker.”

Most people tend to get in the habit of kissing a certain way. Mixing it up a little enriches your relationship, and adds in a little spice!

Do you have any other ways to kiss someone that send a different message?

Read here for Tips on Kissing Well!

Steamy Erotic Romance Story

On January 1st my steamy new story “Power Play,” an erotic romance, will be available for download to willing Erotic Romance Novella Power Playcomputers and readers everywhere. The story gets all tied up with sensual bondage and battles for power.

“A seductive brat tempts a sexy artist to risk his one shot at partnership for a fling with her. But when he takes control, who will come out on top?”
When I wrote this novella, I wondered what kind of woman could seduce a man to risk his hard-won career to be with her. What if there was the danger of them being discovered any minute? I thought it would be fun to see how he’d plan his payback. What would he do if he had complete control over her for a night?